My thirdborn

Jack is proving to be my most difficult child, behaviorally. He's stubborn to the point of insisting that every color is green, he refuses to answer questions about shapes, and says that cows say "woof" and dogs say, "moo". He won't let me read books to him, he won't let me sing, he won't color with me, nor paint. I can't seem to figure out how to reach this kid...how to play with him on his level and at the same time teach him things. He loves choo choo trains, but when I play that he gets all mad about something I'm doing and wrecks the track apart. He's very helpful (when he wants to be), and certainly thinks he is older than 2. I feel like I'm doing a very poor job parenting him compared to Kyle & Lili. I just don't have the patience anymore and end up walking away from his outbursts after attempting to play with him. I know I need to dredge up my patience and persist somehow...but as of right now I have very little interaction time with him compared with my first two, and that makes me sad. But how do I play with this mean, stubborn, little kid who does not even seem to care about my feelings and/or about pleasing anyone but himself? Don't get me wrong. He is a sweet kid, always smiley, beautiful to boot....very outgoing and high spirited. But he is not easy to get along with. This is the one that will keep me awake at night, probably aging me decades before my time.